For most people, Valentine’s day means going out for dinner and sitting across from each other…with no third person distractions. This also means the potential for increased eye contact. Looking into another’s eyes can be a very intimate and/or threatening experience. If you’re having trouble in your relationship, the avoidance of eye contact through dinner will reflect the difficulty of looking at the current truths in your relationship. If, on the other hand, you’re relationship is going well, the opportunity to look into your lover’s eyes will be a welcome part of the intensity and intimacy you’re feeling.
Psychologists have studied eye contact for many years. Recent research from Aberdeen University psychologist, Dr. Ben Jones, suggests that people who make eye contact and smile are more likely to be seen as attractive. Dr. Jones’ study involved having subjects look at a series of photographs and rate the attractiveness of the people in them. Men and women in the study were given flash cards to look at with different facial expressions – making eye contact or not and smiling or not. The results showed the people in photos making eye contact and smiling were rated as more attractive.
What has your Valentine’s Day experience been like? Was the lack of distractions and opportunity for direct eye contact a welcome expereince reassuring you of your love, or a painful reminder of how poorly things are going? Tell us what you think. Leave us a comment!