Episode 2 is up!

Comfort them or let them cry it out? Doctors B and G talk about getting kids to go to sleep.

2 Responses to Episode 2 is up!
  1. Tom
    April 10, 2008 | 12:17 pm

    It is interesting to hear you two talk about this. One question – do you REALLY think your children would have been irreparably harmed if they didn’t learn to self-sooth by 9 or 18 months? What do you think would have happened if you had waited until they were old enough to discuss sleeping alone “like a big boy” before insisting that they stay in their own bed or sleep alone?

    My wife and I totally agree on the flexibility issue. You can almost never anticipate what your children will want/need from day to day. Just when you think you’ve got them figured out, they change the rules. You’ve really got to pay attention to the signals they send you and listen to what they are trying to say (even if all they can do is cry).

    Our first child had a real hard time sleeping through the night and probably didn’t sleep alone for an entire night (without sneaking into our bed) until well after 2 years old. Our second son took to the crib right away and starting “sleeping through the night” very early (in comparison).

    Consistency is one of my strong points which I find gives our children a sense of stability and comfort. Of course, you can’t control every situation but you do what you can. It is especially important when you are trying to set up a routine (be it feeding or sleeping or whatever).

  2. Dr. Giuseppe Spezzano
    April 10, 2008 | 7:34 pm

    Thanks for the feedback Tom. We appreciate knowing that people are finding the show interesting and worth listen to.

    Learning to self-sooth is clearly not necessary for normal development. On the other hand, it certainly doesn’t hurt for kids to learn to do this. It is all really individual to the parents involved and their own comfort level. As we mentioned on the show, the norm for centuries and still in most parts of the non-western world is for kids not to learn to self-sooth early.

    Your point about listening to kids is well taken. And you’re right, they do change just as you think you have them figured out.